This disease likes to mess with me.
I can go from months where I don’t notice any change in my strength to days where it feels like I am weakening by the hour. Over the last couple months, another wave of weakness has infiltrated my muscles, right as I was starting to adjust to my new level of strength. I can track my decline based on the everyday activities I perform, and whether or not they are harder to do than the day before.
Lately, getting out of bed with my walker has become a chore. It requires all the upper body strength I can muster, which is not much these days. My biceps have just about shriveled away, following the lead of my triceps which dissipated a couple years back. My chest and abdominal muscles, once muscular (I’m not talking beach body, but I used to be in shape!) have been replaced by fat. I press with all my might to get up, and although I am still able to stand upright, I worry in the back of my mind about the next time. What if my arms give out or I throw out my back? It’s a long way to the floor.
There are different pieces of equipment out there to aid in the transfer and lifting process, equipment that I am going to need to entertain at some point. I also have my dad who can help me, but I can’t rely on him forever – he is going to be 70 in September and has back issues of his own. Unfortunately, every time I go through weakening fits like this, I procrastinate on getting new equipment. It is a bug in my program.
Now, more than ever, I need to get out ahead of my weakness and purchase the equipment I need before I suffer serious injury, or worse, hurt a family member in the process. No piece of equipment have I procrastinated on getting more than a power wheelchair. It is the ultimate form of adaptive equipment, the terminus in a long line of physical concessions. I just haven’t been able to bring myself to start the process.
Let’s face it – I need the chair. I wobble. My legs are unsteady. My lower back bows out uncomfortably, a byproduct of my body’s feeble attempt to maintain a center of gravity. I don’t want to wait until the day I fracture my tibia in a fall, and have no choice but to use a chair. I want to ease into it. I need to ease into it, for my own acceptance. For my own sanity.
I’ve written about my struggle in accepting the need for a wheelchair before and won’t belabor the point here. I’m not necessarily worried about the stigma associated with being in a wheelchair. I’m at peace with it and look forward to the freedom it provides, although I’d be lying if I said I’m looking forward to the experience as a whole.
What I am struggling with now, however, is the notion that once it happens, there is no going back. I can’t try a power chair and say it’s not for me, then never use it again. It’s not that type of disease. I can’t preserve strength through sheer will and by refusing to use a chair. Until the day there is a cure or an Iron Man suit I can use, the chair is the only game in town. It will be the challenge of challenges, the ultimate test of my faith and what I’ve learned about resilience on this long, arduous journey. But I can’t avoid it. Because of my hesitation, I have held off on trying a power chair all this time.
And then it happened. Finally.
Before attending the MDA Clinical Conference this past March, I had asked MDA for a scooter I could use at the conference in the near-guaranteed scenario that I’d flip out when my dad ignored my directions while pushing me in my manual chair. Like clockwork, by the end of the first day we were already butting heads.
On the second day, we went into a side room near the MDA kiosk to pick up my scooter. Staring back at me instead, however, was a red power wheelchair. No, I can’t sit in this, I thought. Not yet. I had always believed that I would need to ease into the thought of using a chair before I’d be ready to give it a try. This? This was pulling off the Band-Aid. Considering that my parents and three MDA staff members were waiting for me to give a yes/no on whether or not I wanted to use the chair, I let out a deep sigh and said yes. It was time.
My dad picked me up and plopped me down in the power chair. It felt comfortable, which I did not expect. It turns out it was the same chair used by the MDA national ambassador Justin a few hours prior, which might have made it more comfortable since it had already been broken in.
I turned the chair on and the control panel lit up in red, yellow and green. It was fully charged, ready for action. I pressed forward timidly on the joystick, and before I knew it, I was off.
I expected to lurch forward in a herky-jerky fashion until I got used to the controls, but it was a smooth ride. I passed between my parents, left the room and headed for the main atrium. There were still sessions taking place in the ballroom, so I had time and space to give the chair a test drive before I had to weave in and out of foot traffic. I ramped up the speed and drove down the hallway, then used the joystick to turn around in a 180. I can do this, I thought. Although I wouldn’t want my real chair to be red in a million years, at that moment I cared more about the fact that I was moving free and independent. Finally.
As I drove, I realized that this was the perfect time to give a power chair a try. It was a muscular dystrophy conference, after all. Everyone would expect to see a patient in a wheelchair at the conference and not think twice about it. It was a far cry from the day in April 2013 when I bought my forearm crutches. That day, I sought out the stares of strangers on the sidewalk, itching for one of them to give me a dirty look so I could have an excuse to release my pent up rage.
Before I could re-enter the ballroom to catch the end of the session, I had one more hurdle to clear. I set the chair on max speed and high-tailed it over to the windows, where the reflection would be easy to see with the sun tucked behind the clouds.
As I approached the windows, I could see myself in the distance getting closer and closer. Ten feet away, I could start to make out distinguishing features. Two feet away, I could see my face. When I stopped the chair, I gave myself a once-over.
Part of me wanted to mourn the reflection in the window. How, after ten years of symptoms, I had finally gotten to this point, stuck in a seated position for perhaps the rest of my life.
After a few seconds, however, a funny thing happened: I was bored. The moment wasn’t nearly as emotional as I had expected it to be. It was just another moment, in a series of up-and-down moments, on my patient journey. Looking back in my reflection was a face that has already been through so much, and still has so much left to accomplish.
17 thoughts on “Test Drive”
Thanks for sharing this Chris!
Glad you liked it!
Wow. Chris, you wrote so clearly about this step, I could almost picture you at the conference. Since I discovered your blog, I’ve appreciated your perspective, and this one is a post I probably need to print and save for future reference. Thank you for this one, for keepin’ it real!
Thanks Wendy! I enjoy your blog as well.
Awesome post, Chris! This was my experience too! I was trying to borrow a scooter from a loan closet but the only thing I could find was a power chair to borrow. Once I got it home and realized how easy it was to carry my infant daughter in it, I was hooked!
I think I was most surprised by the smoothness of the ride. Figured it would be herky-jerky but it wasn’t that bad. I get motion sick easily…
Yes Chris, face the facts, enjoy the ride and get one. It will give you freedom and safety. Yes Freedom.
I felt so free when I tried a scooter for the first time on a cruise to the Bahamas and the Caribbean. I was sad at first but enjoyed the freedom it gave both me and my Husband. Yes , I too had that look at my self in the mirror and I realized that it wasn’t as bad I thought it would be. In June, I will be hooking up with MDA as well as a new neurologist out of Lahey in Burlington to see how I can improve my quality of life. That is where we lie know, not a cure but how to improve the quality of our lives. I use that as my new guide now.
I keep reading your blog because of the growth that I see in you over the months, now years.
It seems that you arrived at a place of acceptance necessary to be where you are. Difficult I bet, because so many messages from media and even medical associations are about beating the disorder; the metaphors of combat are too common. It makes acceptance harder to bear if the mind is on waging a battle or if the mindset is focused on winning, like a competition. If it were me with the malady, I would struggle to be independent not have to rely on others or anything. I admire you after seeing you face yourself in the mirror through what was written for me and others. And my hope and prayer for you is that you endure your hardships and tough it through the bumps, but if you see a ride, Enjoy The Ride.
Travel on, Ed T
Thanks Ed. Really appreciate the comment!
As always, another authentically described experience. I could relate to you and your dad bumping heads about being maneuvered in the chair. It’s irritating to not be included in conversations or be pointing in the wrong direction. I love my red scooter, my red power wheelchair, and my red push walker (choice determined by my energy and the environment). I can move on my own. Mobility is nobility.
Thank YOU. I woke up today thinking about your post. Everything is going to be OK, Chris. Adapt, adapt, adapt. And when you start dancing with your power chair, let me know. It’s a lot of fun.
Thank you for sharing this Chris!
Thanks! Glad you liked it!