Hi there! My name is Chris Anselmo. I am a 30-year-old living in West Hartford, CT, and am a recent graduate of the full-time MBA program at Boston College. Over the last nine years I have battled a neuromuscular disease that has taken over every aspect of my life. It is because of this disease that this site exists.
If I wrote this six years ago, this would be the point where I would start complaining about how hard it is to deal with my condition. It took me a long time to come to grips with my situation and accept my physical limitations. Now? It is not your pity I seek. Trust me, I don’t want it. I can find you plenty of people who are deserving of sympathy and support. Instead, I ask that you listen to what I have to say, and if you can, take the lessons I’ve learned as I transition from ability to disability and apply them to your own life. For better or worse, I’ve accumulated a lot of wisdom for someone my age, mainly because I have been forced to see the world from a different perspective. It is through interactions with others that my life has meaning, and I find strength in battling this debilitating disease.
I don’t want to be just another inspirational story you read about and then forget. I can write until my wrists can no longer type, but if my words don’t inspire someone to improve their life, then my story won’t matter. In short, I want to help. If you are struggling emotionally, I want to help you overcome your sadness. If you are facing a health challenge, I want to show you that life goes on. If you fall, I want to pick you up.
The only way I can accomplish this is to lay it all out there, through my writing, for the world to see. My story may resonate with you, or it may not. My goal is to update this site regularly with observances from my day to day life in the “Through My Eyes” section. I experience a lot over the course of the day – good, bad, and humiliating. I also am using this blog to write about the places I go, partly to force myself out of my comfort zone. One of the greatest struggles I face is this inner battle between going out in the world where there is risk all around me, and staying home in relative safety. You will find my travels under “The Reluctant Traveler”. Here you will see my frustrations and triumphs trying to navigate the world with uneasy legs. Other tabs include “The Adversity Playbook”, a series of posts where I talk about ways that I have dealt with adversity in my life, and “Daily Musings”, shorter posts on anything that inspires me to write that particular day.
Lastly, you will see links on the right to blogs I write for regularly, projects and initiatives I am a part of, and published works. I am hopeful that someday I will have a large collection of published material!
This site will chronicle my ups and downs, my trials and tribulations, my successes and failures. There are still going to be dark days ahead. I am at a precarious point in my life where I will probably lose my ability to walk in the next couple of years without some sort of intervention. I am also one fall away from a serious injury. These fears loom over my head, but as Mark Twain once said, “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear.” I won’t let fear stop me.
All my writings and all my actions are rooted in this disease in one way or another. My future course, whether it’s in the business world or as a writer, finds its purpose in my condition.
I have to believe that a better outcome lies out there in the future. I have to believe that I will regain all my muscle function someday, and I can pick up where my life left off the day I fell for the first time. Until then, I will live my life to the best of my ability, a unique journey that I embrace and have every intention of enjoying.
“The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”
– Nelson Mandela